The golden formula awakens the limitless potential within every child

At first, every child is like a blank page, but later, whether they become good no longer depends on whether their inner potential is discovered or not.

Whether it’s talent or family background, this is only the surface of one’s success. The real force that motivates a person is the constant challenge of oneself, of overcoming oneself. That’s a strong motivation, the key to every child’s success starts from scratch.

There is a golden formula for awakening the limitless potential in every child:

Self control: Do what you want.

– Fun: It’s fun, it makes me excited to want to do it.

– Ability: I can do well above all expectations.

Connectivity: I can do this in a loving and supportive environment.

1. A sense of self-control

There is a fact that, the more parents care, the more they encourage their children to learn, the worse the learning outcomes will be. Actually, the root of this problem lies not in the children but in the parents.

Gu Eillen’s mother was a ski instructor, but she never asked her children to know how to play this sport. Instead, she encourages and supports her daughter to try all the things she loves such as horseback riding, running, swimming, climbing, archery, ballet, piano…

Once when Gu Eileen wanted to participate in a very dangerous freestyle ski tournament, her mother was very worried but still chose to support her daughter’s decision.

Even at this year’s Olympics, when Eileen lost in the 2nd round, she said and wanted to try a hard move, she said: “This is your game, enjoy it.”

Whether it’s a big event or a daily hobby, gu Eileen’s mother leaves her children free to make their own decisions. This not only fueled his desire to win, but also gave him a sense of self-control, as well as the strength to continue to challenge himself and break through.

In fact, every child has a strong self-control, they like to explore, imitate. The more autonomy a child has, the more eager they are to learn and take on challenges.

Therefore, to protect the child’s sense of autonomy, parents let the child do what they like. In this way, children can maintain a lifelong passion for learning and motivation to continue to make progress.

2. Clear goals

Many parents wonder and exclaim when they see their children are lazy to study, or give up in the middle of the road, and are always complacent.

In fact, both children and adults, when doing something without a specific purpose, they will often be confused, unfocused and easily give up.

When children are lazy to study, or lazy, or give up easily, it’s all because they haven’t set a clear goal in their hearts.

Goals are light to guide children in the right direction, motivation for them to try every day.

So, if you want your child to be successful in a certain area, parents must help them set goals. Only when a goal has been set can the belief in hard work be embedded in the child’s body, motivating them to persevere and work hard to achieve that goal step by step.

3. Feel connected

Many parents use threats, slaps, nagging to arouse shame so that their child can try harder. But the fact is that the more parents apply this method, the less confident the child will be, the more scolded, the less willing to learn.

Only by allowing children to make mistakes, and showing unconditional love, can children become more courageous and hardworking.

Smart parents will do their best to support their child’s love, but don’t ask the child to “be successful”.

Gu Eileen’s mother once said:

“You don’t have to go to Stanford to study, you don’t have to win championships, the most important thing is to stay curious and never give up on learning.”

When Gu Eileen lost in a competition, she never scolded but just hugged her daughter tightly and said: “I’m very proud of you.”

The unconditional love and support of parents for their children is a child’s greatest sense of security and confidence. With parental support, children can boldly step forward.

Parents must believe that every child has unlimited potential within, only when properly stimulated, inner motivation is found, then the young child is given the strength to continue to challenge and surpass himself.

4. Ability

Psychologist Robert White once said: “People always want to be recognized by others because of their abilities.”

Children always crave recognition and praise from their fathers for their efforts. If parents never give any affirmation or encouragement to their children, it destroys the child’s sense of competence.

When parents look down on them, children become less confident, lose the desire to try, and have no motivation to learn anymore.

Professor William Simon at Stanford University said: “An important way for parents to convey a sense of empowerment to their children is to explain to them: I believe you can do it.”

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