What’s wrong with forcing children to learn?
My family currently has a child studying in 6th grade. All issues related to the child’s grades, ability to absorb, going to extra school are always the top concern in the family. I always have the mentality of “forced” my child to sit at the study table to get good grades, feel pressured when teaching forever, my child does not understand the lesson and is inferior to my classmates and the children of colleagues and relatives.
Many evenings, mother and daughter sat and wrestled with each other. You also seem stressed when you can’t do your homework. Mom was disappointed because ‘the lesson is so easy but I can’t understand it’. In addition, seeing my children in my class “have good results, compete in big and small competitions in school” also makes me impatient. I also look for extra classes for my son, scouring the internet for resources for his reference on Saturdays and Sundays. I almost no longer have time to go out or rest during my 10 years of schooling.
I often tell my children, study for a good future, there is no better way than going to school. And indeed my generation (8x) is exactly like that. We think that the university gate is the only way to enter life. Personally, from childhood to adulthood, I have worked hard in my studies, trained in a regular school, attended a specialized school of choice.
In terms of life in the future, the rejection for those without degrees or degrees will probably be much harsher than our generation. Job opportunities will not be easy due to the requirements of foreign languages and professional qualifications. Robots will replace humans in some areas. Technologies like AI will transform people’s lives. If I don’t try and make an effort from a young age… will my child have a place in society anymore?
But… I thought again, right now I’m just working for a regular salary, my job isn’t outstanding. The average income is even called low compared to the need. Compared only with my paternal and maternal family, I am even the highest student with two university degrees, one master’s degree – graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Vietnam but earning a low income. far behind their cousins, most of whom attended middle school and college, pursuing vocational jobs. Now, they all have property and income, even a fairly solid position.
Of course, when it comes to the reasons for everyone’s success, there are many factors. But if it is only about academic qualifications and education, I clearly realize that it is not every step out of the university gate or with a high degree that you have a good income and success in life.
Will “good study” be “good for your future” and “happy and fun life”?
As a mother myself, so far I have not really answered this question. Therefore, I still tend to “force” my child to study well to get good results. And really, there’s a little bit of accomplishment every time you get high academically. “Showing off” that achievement on social media is an indispensable habit for me throughout my child’s learning journey.
Sometimes, my child’s academic results are not as satisfactory, due to stress and frustration, I also spoke harshly to him.
My children tend to be less talkative. Almost all week, he studied in class and took extra lessons, studied with his mother at night, did not have any close friends. Pleasures such as music or soccer are also abandoned due to too much homework to do. I also rarely share my thoughts with my parents.
But to take the risk of “dropping” my child to self-study, where they can learn, if the score doesn’t matter, I’m not really ready.
I am still very worried, if my child is “lagged” in terms of school knowledge, unable to pass exams at all levels, his future will be very uncertain. Getting my child ready for an apprenticeship that he loves is also not my first choice. Because obviously, being a doctor, an engineer is still better than a “chef”, a skilled worker.
The school itself and my peers are living the same life as me. Does being separate or living differently make you “out of place”?
Living differently means ignoring the pressure of schoolwork, going to school according to one’s own ability and having time for personal interests, treating parents as friends who are willing to share everything.
Or is it the shape of “a happy and joyful life”. At your child’s age, it will be time to go out, chat with friends, and pursue your desired hobbies. And at the threshold of life, you have the right to choose a career – not necessarily going to university. And because they are not under too much pressure to study, the children will have a more comfortable life, closer to their parents, will look to their parents as a fulcrum whenever they need advice on future life orientation. future.
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