Friends are not about numbers. It also means, when you meet someone, don’t just think about how to make friends, but have more friends. Some people are not cut out to be friends, the closer they are, the more to their own detriment.
Remember, the people you meet in life are not all righteous, tolerant, know how to see problems from other people’s point of view and will not do things that violate ethics. The truth is that many people have bad views. They are very selfish and don’t care about other people’s feelings.
Looking for friends needs to be careful, to consider a lot of issues. There are not many true friends in this world. The human heart is not as simple as you think, the less you know it from the outside. To be honest, those who influence your interests and growth, or make you vulnerable to emotional swings, are more likely to not have deep friendships, gradually drifting away. These 3 types of people, whatever their current relationship, should gradually be avoided:
People who always ask about your personal life, money
Among friends, you should not ask too much, there are things you should not ask in detail. When someone doesn’t speak up, it means they don’t want to share, so don’t ask. In dealing with people, keep this in mind, don’t misinterpret the shame of others not to share.
Not asking questions that are too personal or asking someone to share what they don’t want is mutual respect. Everyone has their own life, you shouldn’t spend too much time with one person and shouldn’t care too much about someone’s money, even borrow money just because they are richer than you.
There will be people who usually only come to you when they need money. They ask about your financial situation, borrow money from you and don’t know the payment date. In interpersonal communication, you must understand that with people who are only interested in your money, deep friendships are impossible. They envy your good life, just want to use you for money.
People who are lazy and full of negative energy
At work, you will always find people who are lazy, never take their work seriously and the chances of success for these people are almost zero. When they fail, the first thing they think about is their bad luck. They blame this or that person, for some reason, except for themselves, for this problem to arise. People with a bad work attitude, constantly emitting such negative energy are a stumbling block in the path of life and you should stay away from them, not giving them a chance to approach you.
“Black near ink near bright light”. If you spend a long time with people with negative energy, you will gradually become impatient, unwilling to work hard, complain a lot, and always feel that what is happening is unfair to you.
Everyone around will have a certain influence on us. Therefore, if someone’s words negatively affect your mood, delay your trip, do not approach that person.
Surround yourself with people who are positive, persistent, and don’t give up easily. They are the perfect people to make friends with. Together, you will grow with them and overcome adversity, not always thinking of going back and mourning your own fate.
Someone who speaks without thinking
There is a saying: “Painting comes from the mouth”. If you don’t control your mouth, you will say things that easily make the other person feel uncomfortable, unwelcome and gradually push the relationship away.
The speaker is accidental, the listener is intentional. A sentence that seems ordinary but can make the listener feel uncomfortable, don’t want to go along with it, don’t want to make friends.
Maybe you also have a friend like that, always talking without thinking. Because of this and that, you choose to tolerate them, but not everyone is like you and you can’t always do that. Regular contact with this type of person will affect your future.
Someone like them is unreliable at key moments and the closer you are, the worse it will be for you. People who can hurt you, it is best to stay away from them completely, do not make friends, do not contact often and do not share about your personal life.
Not everyone can be the person beside us. In the way of dealing with people, thinking that someone can be your friend, have the same experience together; also may not be suitable as friends, always have to keep a certain distance.
Reality shows that there are some people who don’t deserve your attention and you don’t have to spend a lot of time and effort on such people. When you surround yourself with so many people, your life will be affected in a bad way.
There are people you have to stay with, there are people you have to keep their distance from, slowly drifting away. Every decision you make today affects your future. So hold yourself accountable, think critically, and make wise decisions.