Annoyed when ex-husband finds new happiness

I’m 37 years old, working as an accountant, with a decent salary. I divorced my husband three years ago because of conflicts in married life.

The patriarchal husband’s family, somewhat despised my family because my starting point was not very good. That year, his parents didn’t like me, but they didn’t strongly oppose it, at that time I was a beauty queen at the university, so I was quite confident, thinking that my loving husband would solve everything.

Regarding living together, I cannot bear the pressure of being the bride of a well-to-do family. I can’t decide anything at all, not even giving birth to a baby. I gave birth to a son, so my husband’s family wanted me to live with them. Although my husband loves me, he still listens to his family, which causes more and more conflicts between the couple. I’m tired and feel my feelings fade away.

The couple accumulated a sum of money, his family gave more than enough to buy a house in the city. We moved out separately, I took my biological parents to live with them because they only had me. My husband also agrees because grandparents help us with many things. I thought I would be comfortable on my own, but my husband’s family still interfered in my small family, calling me a clumsy daughter-in-law who did not know how to teach children to be stubborn.

I lost sympathy with my husband’s family and didn’t want to go there anymore. As conflicts built up and feelings for her husband faded, I filed for divorce. At that time, my husband held on a lot, but I was determined to leave.

At first, when I broke up, I was free, comfortable, got rid of the situation of being a bride, met friends more often, opened my heart a lot. Because the child is still young, we do not want to affect his psychology, so he still lives in the same house with me and my parents. I freely hang out in front of my ex-husband without having to tell him. At that time, I was introduced to a new person by friends, my ex-husband knew but didn’t say anything. Perhaps divorced, living in the same house with me and my parents made him uncomfortable.

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Since the day my ex-husband moved out, I feel strangely lonely, looking forward to each time he visits my children to meet them. Every time he comes over, I always choose the best outfit to wear, ask questions and concerns. I don’t understand why he doesn’t care about me at all. Three years of separation, he treated me normally, but I could feel his indifference. My family loves him, still hoping that they will return one day.

Through friends, I understand the reason for everything, he has a new person. Perhaps this is the daughter-in-law his family is looking for, the family subject to sign up for what grandparents want. I think I have more children than her, so I use that as a motivation to win back my husband. I made up my mind to talk to my ex-husband, tell me why I did that in the past, and talk about what I had to go through. He didn’t sympathize and didn’t even want to listen to me. He kept saying that everything was over, the love was over, and publicly announced that he had a new person. Since then, I have made an excuse to bring my children back to my grandfather to approach my ex-husband’s family, but everyone seems to support that he has a new person.

I set down the book not to let him visit my son much, not to take him to meet new people. He calmly agreed. Now I really hate my ex-husband and don’t want him to have a new happiness. I’d rather the two of them just stay out of my sight, maybe I wouldn’t be angry. After all, he no longer has feelings for me, does not want to return to his family, but constantly appears to visit his children, every time he meets with a normal attitude, which makes me even more uncomfortable.

Is there any way for me to get out of this situation? I’m not sure I want to get back with you but can you “wait” to be happy?

Diem

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