Life is hard because of getting married to escape

In the past, I was very sad, always wondering why not other people but me? When I went to school, I was often teased by my friends, grew up being ridiculed by others, and some people even imitated my voice. I asked that person: “You are a normal person, why do you want to be like me?” He said it was just a joke. I said why do you play on other people’s pain? They dared not say anything more. In addition, there are still people who mock me, no matter how much pain and sadness they have caused me. That’s how society is, there are this and that, good people and bad people, I no longer wonder why it’s me and not others, instead accepting my unlucky self. I do it to be more confident, happier and live better even though life is not so smooth and fortunate.

I graduated from high school in pharmacy, at that time this profession was considered quite good, but I did not feel good at all. I carried my resume to apply for jobs everywhere, and was rejected because my voice was not standard, new listeners would not be familiar with it and could not hear it. Opening a pharmacy, my family and I couldn’t afford it at that time. I am depressed but still have to live, have to earn money. I accept to work as a worker.

>> Regrets for rushing to get married

My love story is also not smooth, I don’t know because of me, fate or life like that. I have a lover, quite handsome, not long in love, then he decided to go abroad to work for the reason that his family was too poor. I said I will wait for you, three years will pass quickly. He said he didn’t want me to wait, for fear of missing his daughter’s life. Then he left, leaving me alone and helpless, no more contact. When I was 29 years old, I got married through matchmaking, married someone I didn’t love because I was afraid of being lonely, thinking if I couldn’t stay, I would get a divorce.

When he married me, he was 37 years old and had nothing in his hand, no identity card, no driver’s license, 300 thousand dong for the car to pick up the bride, I also had to secretly pay him, and I took care of all the money for the wedding photos. Before the wedding day, I also went to buy him clothes to wear properly. Because of the savings, on the day of the party, I didn’t dare to rent a wedding dress, nor did I have a wedding at my husband’s house, my husband’s parents told me to do it at my house. It’s also sad and sad to think about.

Going back to live together, it was difficult to go to work with him, give up working every day, do what you like if you don’t like it, even quarrel with people and then leave. He only drank, he didn’t refuse when he drank, sometimes he got drunk. Not to mention at home, he still has a bad habit of knowing nothing about being drunk, I can’t say it out loud. Living like that day by day, I was bored and quarreled and fought. When the husband and wife argued, he touched his hands and feet, my parents and children cringe and then hugged each other and cried. At first, I kept it a secret from my parents, but after my five-year-old daughter saw her parents arguing, she called her grandparents because my parents were nearby. The argument reached the climax, my husband left with some money, I stayed to raise the children and pay the debt to build a house. At that time, I lived on the land given to me by my grandparents. When he left, his five-year-old daughter exclaimed: “Mom, Dad is gone, I don’t worry about parents arguing anymore.” After a while, I took my son back to Hanoi, no money, no house, no job.

>> Regret for not researching carefully before getting married

I asked to stay at my brother’s house, then went to work as a worker, then went out to stay, my parents and I lived together. I only knew when I was hungry. I raised my children alone, sometimes I thought I would fall. Many times I silently cried for my unfortunate fate, then I wiped my tears again, stood up and continued. Fortunately, thanks to the help of my parents, brothers and sisters, I have a house for my parents and children, saving me from having to stay at the boarding house. Seeing that being a worker is so hard, with little money, while I have to take care of my children, I am determined to learn to sell online, which is not easy because I have no capital. Currently, my life is still difficult, but I am still determined and trying to give my parents a bright future.

I write here to relieve my heart, a little unfortunate fate. Hope those who have some unlucky fate, try and be resilient, hope joy and luck will smile at you. Thank you everyone for reading my story.

Hanh

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