Husband loves someone else but still chooses family

My husband has cheated twice, the first time was when I was pregnant with my first child. When I found out, I made a fuss. That girl worked in his office, not gentle. She knew that I was his wife, but still challenged me saying: “The one who is not loved is the third”. She is fierce, so I don’t respect her. I blew everything up so that the whole agency knew the truth about those two people. In the end, my husband, because of pressure from both sides of the family, also left him to return to his family. For the sake of my new-born child, I accept forgiveness to start over.

Since then, he has completely changed, no longer sweet to me, not interested in children. He went away a lot, and when he returned, he didn’t even care about my mother and me. We always raise our voices to each other and disagree about almost everything in life. Husband and wife rarely sleep together. Life is really suffocating.

When my daughter was six years old, I was pregnant for the second time, hoping this child would help me and my wife to be happy again, but I was wrong. Husband cheated again. When I was pregnant, he went on business trips more, separated from my mother and children more, took care of his appearance. We hardly sleep together anymore. I secretly looked at his phone and computer many times without detecting anything unusual. He still sends money back to my mother and children in full. I was also used to his coldness, so I did not inquire further.

>> I hurt both you and your wife

One day, I took my husband’s computer for my daughter to study, saw that the chat was still open, so I was curious to see a nick calling “wife” and calling my husband “husband”. Without thinking much, I took my husband’s phone and called the girl again. I had a series of scolding statements in my head. However, when the other party picked up the phone, I couldn’t say a word. That girl’s voice was gentle, polite and even asked to meet me to talk.

I went to the date with the mindset of a legitimate wife, thinking she must be afraid of me. But when that girl appeared, my confidence gradually disappeared. She is very beautiful, polite, arrogant appearance but sad eyes. We talked for a long time, I believe she didn’t know that my husband had a wife and children. He lied that he had divorced his wife, showed her a fake decision paper, and even said he had never had children. My husband went to her house to say hello, the two are planning to get married. All the messages and comparison information made me believe that she was also a victim like me. We, two miserable women, sympathize with each other for encountering a bad guy. After that, she completely cut off contact with my husband.

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That evening, my husband came home and called me to sit down and talk. He said he was indebted and had feelings for that girl but still chose family. He asked me not to bother her anymore. He is more contemplative, smokes more. As a wife, it hurts me when my husband loves another woman. But as a woman, I also feel for the other girl.

Now looking at my two young children sleeping soundly, looking at the figure of my husband smoking and thinking in the hallway, my heart aches. What should I do? Let him go to find love or try to live for his children? I still love you, still want to keep this family.

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