Help teen overcome pressure

Having to live in guilt, fear, loneliness, and being lost without receiving sympathy makes many teenagers just want to find a way to “liberate” themselves.

Many parents are not calm and patient enough to observe their children fairly. Many children share that “even breathing makes their parents’ eyes itch”. Many families are stuck in a whirlpool: parents and children do not understand and sympathize with each other.

Raising children is that we are correcting ourselves

Recently, in the talk show “How to help children overcome pressure” organized by Tan Viet Book Store, writer Ho Thi Hai Au shared, being a parent is never easy. For parents who want to accompany their children, they need to be more tolerant and more patient with their children’s stubbornness, foolishness and mistakes. From there, family members can understand each other, making the family really a place of trust, tolerance and warmth.

Explaining why it is difficult for two generations to find a common voice, writer Ho Thi Hai Au shared: Have you ever tried to look back to see if you have been gentle and patient with your children? Or in the middle, there is always a barrier that scares children when parents are always tense, always ready to get angry, can be violent at any time. There are small actions of children, but in times of frustration, parents have overreacted.

In fact, we adults are the ones with many conflicts inside. We want them to grow up, we want them to grow up, and we want them to be independent, but we also want them to do what we choose. Parents also need freedom, so why not let children be free? Because of the feeling of insecurity, you fear that the child will not do what you want, you will not be able to control. But parents need to know, their children are never the version of themselves. Children are only 8 years old or younger, 8 years old and up are already different. Don’t ask me to be a child forever. Parents panic because they see that their child is so different, he has started to have opinions, completely disobeying his will and we want him to go back to the old way. You need the child to be completely dependent on you, but this is a dangerous thing. Parents should see for themselves, face to face with their hearts, that: “Do you hope that you will raise and accompany your children and those children will be at peace in that way? Therefore, in order to help children, parents must understand themselves and put themselves in the position of a child.

Are there any parents who realize their own mistakes in parenting? Has anyone had the courage to sincerely apologize to you? But even if the apology is said, the wound in the child’s soul is still there. Let’s start the change by realizing that we need to thank our children for coming into this life, so that we know how to be an honest person, know how to be patient, know how to love. Parenting is we are correcting ourselves. Parents will gradually know to give their children space, let them manage on their own, even in their mistakes and even if it costs themselves. Parents respect the child’s being, so that they can express themselves most clearly.

The way we accompany our children, we are building their dreams like that. That kind dream, that sustainable effort, will surely be realized and rewarded. And you won’t have to worry about your child going the wrong way. When your baby can fly on his own, you will feel that is freedom. And that is the joy of parents.

Let me fly

Teens are very sensitive, not yet psychologically stable, what should parents do to prevent their children from getting hurt? How do children learn to control their emotions? How do children overcome pressure and see the positive in every situation? How can similar unfortunate events not be repeated in our own families? Parents, wake up and change before it’s too late. In order for the two generations to be closer to each other and understand each other better, please be friends with your children in love, so that they can have a happy life and a peaceful life. At the same time, equip them with useful knowledge, positive energy, and necessary qualities for them to fly after leaving the nest.

In order to reduce the pressure in studying for teenagers, writer Ho Thi Hai Au also shared about how to organize, arrange time, shorten the time to remember lessons, and still ensure learning results without any problems. I have to think every time I walk into class. That way, it will help them take the pressure off.

“Parents listen – understand – empathize to act, gradually remove knots, heal wounds, eliminate negative emotions, to come closer to their children, to accompany their children on the path of growth. Fort.”

Writer Ho Thi Hai Au.