Wife doesn’t dare to be ‘naked’ when near her husband

May 29, 2022 11:43 GMT+7

Self-deprecating because of decline

Ms. Le Thi K. 24 years old, Hanoi shared her story on an EVA forum. According to Ms. K. she has been married for more than 3 years and has given birth to a baby 27 months old. Since giving birth, Ms. K. is self-conscious about her body, especially when she is near her husband

During pregnancy, she gained 28 kg. After giving birth, she lost weight quickly, but the consequences of losing weight were changes in her body. Loose skin in the abdomen with stretch marks, purple and purple. The chest is also stretched like an eel, and the chest pants are dark. In particular, the bile triangle area is K.’s obsession the most because the perineal stitches leave a long scar. Because after giving birth, Ms. K. had an infection of the stitches and keloid scars, so this is her obsession.

Since then, Ms. K. has always been self-conscious about her body. She said that she did not dare to look at herself in front of the mirror, but she did not speak confidently in front of her husband. Every time she gets close, Ms. K. forces her husband to turn off the dark lights.

Although her husband always encouraged her to “turn off the lights on the tiled house like a cottage”, she herself was still not confident. Even during the day, when her husband “cries” her, she also refuses. Only 24 years old, K. is really afraid when those bad points will follow him forever.

Many women also shared with K. including many people who had fallen into K.’s situation, depressed because of body changes after giving birth.

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As for the case of Thuy Linh – 21 years old, living in Hanoi. Linh shared that she is always confident because of her skin pigmentation. Most of the skin sensitive spots were very dark, and she didn’t find that pretty.

Linh reads on the internet that people say that if a girl has nothing, those areas must be rosy. With her boyfriend, she just held hands, hugged and kissed. Linh is afraid that if one day she goes over the limit, how will her boyfriend evaluate her? Linh wants to try buying products to make ‘little girl’ pink to see if it can be improved.

When should cosmetic?

According to Dr. Phan Chi Thanh – Chief of the Office of the Directing Center, National Hospital of Obstetrics and Gynecology, many women have low self-esteem because their private areas are degraded and saggy after giving birth. They always think that the private area is too bad, so they are shy in married life. Many women decide to go to a doctor to correct these “defects”.

Even many women feel obsessive about their private organs, they do not dare to open up to their husbands. Many body areas that make women worry the most are the color of the genitals, the color of the chest area.

For women going through pregnancy and childbirth, they clearly feel the sagging of the body such as changes in skin color in different areas of the chest, armpits, neck, and private areas. The skin of the abdomen is stretched and sagged. Therefore, it is understandable that obsessive, self-deprecating women do not dare to turn on the lights when close to their husbands. Doctor Thanh thinks that men should also share with their sisters.

However, Doctor Thanh said that there are many different factors for cosmetic and beauty treatments. After giving birth, mothers calm down. After giving birth, it takes 6 weeks for the body to return to normal. Stretch marks, dark skin color, and dark color of the genital organs also gradually decrease due to the end of placental hormones. As for pelvic floor muscle recovery, normal delivery takes 6 months, cesarean section takes 1 year.

Doctor Thanh said that women should wait calmly after a while, the body will return to normal. If after 1 year, those organs do not improve, women who want to “refurbish” should also pass 1 year after giving birth.

When cosmetic surgery on the private area, doctor Thanh cautions women to be very careful because this organ also has many nerves. The “remodeling” can make the eyes beautiful, but women lose the feeling. When you want to refurbish, it is recommended that you choose reputable facilities, performed by a doctor with expertise in obstetrics and gynecology. The doctor understands the structure of the genital organs, the nerve points need to be “preserved”, not everything is cut to be beautiful, the risk of cutting the sensory nerve points is also.

Khanh Chi